Your wedding is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life, and you want everything to be perfect. We live such hectic and chaotic lives that when I started planning my wedding, I thought about hiring a professional wedding planner and letting them organize the whole thing. On the other hand, we didn’t want to look like so many other couples: same poses, same outfits, same invitations, same cake, in a venue that’s generically decorated. We both decided that we want our wedding day to be special and to be a perfect reflection of who we are. Here’s how we did it.
When I first started looking for my wedding dress, I was overwhelmed – so many different styles and materials that I felt lost. Another thing that struck me was the price of the dress I liked; it was simply too much. Instead of being desperate and sad, I saw this as an opportunity to express myself and get creative. I found a good tailor, and together we worked on designing my dress, combining all elements that I like: sweetheart neckline, lace, and open back. She found the material I like and made my unique dress! It made me happy to know that it was something made just for me, and the price was lower than buying a new dress, so I saved a ton of money too.
I always hated seeing bridesmaids wear dresses that just don’t fit them, and I hated when I had to do it, so I swore I would let my bridesmaids decide what kind of dress they wanted to wear. I picked the colour and told them to have fun picking the dress. The only thing I asked from them was to pick matching shoes, if possible, because it would be weird if one of them came in flats and other in stiletto heels.
This was difficult to decide on, but to be honest we had help. A close friend is incredibly talented and artistic and she offered to help us decorate the venue. I must admit, we would have been lost without her, but she made everything perfect. She picked the flowers and the details based on our colour palette, and she outdid herself with the centerpieces. Everything was so simple and lovely – baby’s breath everywhere, mason jars, and floating candles to complete the picture. Rustic details were perfect for the venue and everyone made comments about how lovely everything looked.
I never liked getting generic invitations that had nothing to do with soon-to-be newlyweds. My fiancé and I agreed we would pick floral wedding invitations because we share deep love for flowers, and we came up with the text ourselves. We tried being concise and giving people all the necessary invitations without making it look like a machine picked the text for us. We loved our invitations, and the feedback we got was amazing – people told us that our love was clearly written in every line on those invitations.
Another thing that we both hated was the idea of plain photographs: newlyweds posing with each and every guest until their faces got numb from all the smiling at the camera. We talked to our photographer and told him we would like spontaneous photos of the party because we wanted genuine emotions to be captured on our faces and the faces of our friends and family. Needless to say that everyone was in love with our photos and that our photographer was booked after the photos came out because others wanted something similar for their wedding.
Of course, it isn’t always possible to have everything just the way you like it, and from time to time you should be willing to compromise. If you’re not willing to compromise, improvise, and sometimes settle for second best, you’ll end up spending way too much time, energy, and money on things which you won’t even remember in a couple of years. After all, this is the day when you, your family, and friends should celebrate your love, not fret over centerpieces.
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